(bad) boys will be (bad) boys

Last night, I spoke to a friend of mine. She's attracted to this guy so much it's crazy! Haha! The reason for her attraction: the guy's "bad boy" appeal! Haha!

This makes me wonder: why does girls find the 'bad boy' stereotype so attractive and appealing? Do they even consider that knowing that the guy is 'bad', he might do her no good in the end? I don't really know. But as usual, I have my take on this matter. I always have an opinion on everything now do I? Haha!

From what I've observed, girls are thrilled or excited to get the 'bad boy' because of this: they think they can change them.

To be more specific, they are attracted to these bad boy stereotypes because they are fascinated of the thought of being able to change these guys. They think that these guys will change for them... for love. This, from what I've observed, is what drive girls crazy for mister bad boy. Somehow, they're excited of the thought of being able to change the guy.

However, in my most honest opinion... they are mistaken. I don't believe that a guy would change because of a girl.

Now, don't bash me! Like I've said, this is only my opinion. I never said that I'm correct on this. I'm just sharing my thought about the matter at hand, all based on my psychoanalyzing people(I do have a lot of time on my hands, noh?).

Returning to the subject, like I've said, girls are fools to believe this. There may be some instances that a guy changes for a girl but the odds are VERY little. Mostly, these happens on the movies! Haha! Joke! ;p

Seriously, like I've said, the odds are very little. Most of the time, it turns into heartbreaks, and crying marathons on their girl pals' shoulders. One example is that a girl asks his (bad boy)boyfriend to quit smoking. Believe me, this will cause a quarrel:

The guy would agree to stop, albeit hesitantly - He can't help it so he will smoke behind the girl's back - Girl catches bad boy boyfriend - Fight - The guy will call it quits because he'll think the girl is changing him to something he's not - Girl is heartbroken.

Yeah I know that the given example above is actually mababaw but this can actually destroy a relationship! Believe me! A much deeper example would involve families, thoughts, and individuality.

Now I don't want to be Doctor Quack now but what I believe is that when a girl wants a boy (and vice versa), he/she wants them for who they are... and not for whom they want them to be.

So to girls: If you want the 'bad boy', you should like him for who he is. Don't like him because you think you can change him. It's just unfair. Yes, I know na masarap ang feeling na napagpabago niyo yung guy... but what if he doesn't change, what would you do? Cry? Tell yourself that you're stupid enough to fall for him? If he changes, then great. If he doesn't, then accept him for what he is. Like I've told my friend the other night, don't expect much.